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It is not the difference of opinion that destroys the relationship, but the way a couple resolves the argument. How you better argue. And what you should * not * do right now during the Corona quarantine.
Literature and Hollywood want us to believe a few things about love. We quote the classic: "… and they lived happily ever after." Oh well. The makers have probably never lived in times of a pandemic including home office, home schooling and home quarantine …;-)
Everlasting harmony? Even under normal circumstances, that is the greatest nonsense. We are really sorry to have to disappoint you there. Because relationship is work. When two people (and therefore always two egos) enter into a relationship with one another, there are points of friction. Smaller ones. Bigger ones. But never none.
Now we are shaken by a quarrel. Always. Because we are actually addicted to harmony, we want eternal happiness and no ill feelings. The first discussion - and especially a sensitive one - supposedly immediately puts the relationship to the test.
Does an argument mean the end of love?
Nonsense. But the way a couple resolves their discussions and disagreements has a major impact on whether the relationship will last longer.
Is it possible to argue "properly" at all?
Can arguing be that hard? Well, if you consider that 41 percent of all marriages in Austria fail and are divorced again - mostly because the former lovers have nothing more to say to each other - then: YES!
So how do you get a better grip on conflicts? How do you tell your partner what bothers you, what you don't want to accept, where a limit has been crossed - without becoming hurtful, underhanded and mean? And so, bit by bit, to undermine the foundation of the partnership until the relationship structure finally collapses?