2023 Author: Gabrielle Mercer | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 12:25
No, a breakup is sad, no matter what gender we are. But now a study says: Men apparently never get over a relationship breakdown.
You broke up. And it doesn't even matter who left whom, whether it was a bad relationship or a friendship: It's never fun and easy. Both were in pain, both felt the loss.
No, the pain of separation knows both sexes. And yet there is a major difference. Namely in the way we process it.
This is the result of a study published by researchers at Binghamton University in London.
Because while we women fall into a deep hole immediately after the end of love, we cry, stuff unhealthy stuff or lots of wine into us, listen to sad music, analyze every word of the last phone call / meeting with friends and trudge through the emotional valley of hell, walk Men get back to business as usual relatively quickly.
They simply push the pain aside, suppress the grief and drink a few beers with their buddies or go back to the cracks (sorry - not OUR prejudices, but the conclusion of science!).
Men and the end of the relationship: no tears, no suffering
Sounds great, doesn't it? No tears, no suffering.
But the male way of dealing with breakups is not as enviable as it sounds. Because we women deal with the end of the relationship in a painful way, but also reflect - and in the end emerge stronger from the matter.
The men are different. They don't feel such a sudden process of suffering through their repression mode - but they cannot process the separation properly in this way either. The psychologists: "Because they do not come to terms with the end of a relationship, there is a risk of long-term damage. Because they can never really get over the pain associated with it."
Incidentally, the study is not a Larifari research with a small sample, but a meaningful study for which a total of 5,705 people from 96 countries were interviewed.
The study participants were asked to rate how much they felt the emotional and physical pain after a breakup on a scale from 0 (no pain) to 10 (unbearable pain).
Both the emotional (6, 84 to 6, 58) pain as well as the physical (4.21 to 3.75) predominated in the women, but ultimately they recovered more completely from the separation.