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Everyone's talking about ghosting. And what should haunting and benching have to do with online dating? Singles, you should know these terms!
What are all of these new trending terms in online dating? We clarify:
1. Stalking
Did it spark? Of course you want to get to know your counterpart better, know what he / she is doing and stay in contact. That is absolutely understandable. However, a no-go is when the line between curious name Googling and spying on and wildly texting is crossed. Overwhelming one's online acquaintance rarely has the desired effect. It is good for the mutual bond if you are interested in the other, but you should measure your curiosity in portions. How much too much is easy to see in the person opposite: Does the chosen one show the same interest? Does he / she write (back) all the time? If so: carry on! If not: reduce efforts.
2. Ghosting
Another no-go is so-called "ghosting". It comes from the English word for "ghost" - but rather means to behave like a ghost. You have just exchanged messages, maintained intensive contact, perhaps even met more often and suddenly the other person suddenly stopped answering and thus ended the relationship. Again: this is an absolute no-go. Because it is precisely this dating trend that fuels general distrust and reservations about getting involved with someone. If there is no radio, then you have to have your backbone and tell the other person directly. Yes, it is always easier to avoid a confrontation, but in this case it is unfortunately also a really bad action.
3. Haunting
The latest trend in online dating heaven: after you've been "hosted", likes your previous date Instagram pictures, comments on Facebook profile photos, looks at Insta stories - without any subsequent interaction. The "haunter" never completely disappears from our lives and constantly calls himself to mind. This only makes "ghosting" more painful. You don't know your way around anymore and think that the person is suddenly interested. Best to block! Haunting is just a cowardly form of keeping warm - a person who does this may not have a serious interest in you.
4. Benching
To "bench" someone (from the English bench, in German "bank") means to send someone to the reserve bank. In the world of online dating, this simply means: hold off! You can write dozens of dates at the same time, express half-hearted interest and thus collect a selection of potential future partners. It's better to take a look, you don't want to commit yourself - that's why you shouldn't forget that this method is not satisfactory even for a "bencher" himself: If you divide your attention between several writing partners, you lose sight of the details. In addition, the paradox of choice comes to light here: the more choice you have, the more critical and dissatisfied you become.
5. Tuning
The so-called "tuning" is similar to "benching", but much more subtle. Here the contact is intense but harmless. Individuals who "tune" are either shy or in an unhappy relationship. Due to the harmlessness of their messages, they can deny at any time that they wanted more than just friendship and are therefore always on the safe side.
